All women know perfectly well that men need warmth, love, affection and delicious food. Do you know anything about those things that are unacceptable in a relationship with a lover?
- 1. Don’t be too humble
- 2. Don’t feel sorry for him
- 3. Don’t show your stubbornness
- 4. Don’t try to pretend
- 5. Don’t burst into tears
People still cannot solve the riddle of romantic relationships.
Why do successful couples break up for no reason? And husbands and wives, who amaze their relatives with their endless quarrels, are faithful to each other?
Apparently, not all people know how to be truly close to each other. But this does not mean that this art cannot be learned.
Ladies, for example, should find out what actions are forbidden to be performed while in love with a representative of the stronger sex.
So, here are the 5 main prohibitions.
1. Don’t be too humble
When a loved one presents you with a huge bouquet of roses or jewelry, you scream: “You spent so much money on this gift! I’d rather save money.” By saying this inappropriate phrase, you are making a big mistake. In the future, it is she who can contribute to your separation.
Of course, you should not suddenly become a mercantile and demanding person, forcing a man to spend a lot of money on your whims. But a love affair in which a man does not care for his soulmate and does not please her with gifts is not valuable to him.
Indeed, why cherish that woman for whom you do not need to work hard, come up with something new and overcome difficulties?
A love union for the stronger sex is like a house: when they take care of their home, make repairs in it and buy new furniture, it becomes the most expensive and beloved for them. If you offer your spouse to get rid of an old, rusty car, he will be indignant and say: “I will never say goodbye to my“ swallow. She is very dear to me!”
Accept his gifts with a smile and delight, but do not constantly demand them from the second half. Let the chosen one invest more in you (material resources and time). Does your loved one want to pay your bills?
Great, let him help you pay off your debts. He wants to fix a broken table and nail a shelf in the room? So give the tools to your man and brew him delicious tea so that “the work is in full swing.” And most importantly – often thank him for his help and courtship.
2. Don’t feel sorry for him
If he has any problem, he rushes to you with all his might. It’s just that a man is used to throwing out all his sadness and grief on you, putting his head on your knees and complaining about his bitter fate and the injustice that reigns around. Do you say the warmest words to him, hug and stroke his head? Well, this is a common female mistake. Stop pitying him immediately! When he first told you about his failures, you had a desire to console your beloved, as if he was not a strong man, but a tiny boy in need of motherly affection. He is unbelievably infantile!
Because of your pity, you do not take this whiner seriously, do not feel sexual attraction to him. He, in turn, treats you like a caring mother, which is why he does not seek to drag you into bed and wrap him in his arms.
Well, the son will not enter into an intimate relationship with his mother, right? Are you a very compassionate person by nature and can’t help yourself? Then replace pity with sympathy. So you will be on an equal footing with a man.
3. Don’t show your stubbornness
He offers you to take out a mortgage, and you flatly refuse, not wanting to pay extra interest. He persuades you to try to have a baby next year, but you prove that children are nothing but trouble. No matter what your loved one says, you will always be unhappy.
For each of his arguments, you have already prepared a counterargument. You are so stubborn that you could compete with the most stubborn ram. But after all, stubbornness did not make any relationship strong and long. Try to listen to the words of the second half: you must have rejected many good offers from him.
Every man wants to feel powerful and independent, do not deprive him of this opportunity. Of course, you do not have to agree with all his demands and ultimatums, but you simply must take into account his reasonable needs and desires.
Understand that patience is not unlimited! No worthy man will tolerate a woman next to him, endlessly arguing with him and doing everything in defiance of him. Less often engage in verbal skirmishes with your loved one, if you do not want to lose him forever.
4. Don’t try to pretend
Do you think that every person can say what he thinks and express the feelings that he experiences? Actually, it’s not easy.
Remember at least your behavior: do you often smile with an insincere smile or assure your beloved that you have experienced pleasure from unsuccessful intimacy? Of course, you are pretending with the best of intentions. You are afraid to upset a man dear to your heart.
When he is nervous and worried, you do not find a place for yourself, so you resort to such a small lie. But there is one thing: despite your efforts, the man will still understand that you are insincere with him. Maybe subconsciously, but understand. Ultimately, trust will completely disappear from your union. Do you want the chosen one to consider you a vile liar or a hypocrite?
5. Don’t burst into tears
Many men do not tolerate women’s tears and tantrums. When you cry uncontrollably, your spouse immediately makes concessions to you: “Okay, I will do everything as you want. Stop crying now!” Are you really convinced that sobs and hysterical screams are so useful? Do you want to keep doing it this way? But if you start shedding tears every day, then your lover will soon get used to your scenes and stop following your lead. You will get into a stupid situation and simply get confused.
Before that, you negotiated with your life partner with the help of tantrums, but now you need to find a different approach to a man. But you don’t know how to have a constructive conversation, you don’t know how to negotiate, make concessions and convince. You will be in a dead end. To prevent this from happening, read useful literature and learn how to conduct a productive dialogue.
You can cry, but only when you really want to. Remember that you are an adult woman, not a small, capricious child.
