Yes, this is a question that interests many women. You can complain about life, about yourself, about your ex-husband and others, and fall into a protracted depression.
- Let go of guilt and resentment
- Understand that divorce is not the end of life
- Start a new stage of life
You can close yourself and protect yourself from people, and even from loved ones. Stop believing in happiness and love.
Immerse yourself in work, career, “score” on your personal life and live on, feeling nothing. All this, of course, is possible. But let’s think carefully – do you need it?
The depression that accompanies women after a divorce is only a defensive reaction of our psyche, which immediately begins to dictate moods of “dead end” hopelessness.
“Why do I need to do something, change, when it still doesn’t work out, why go on vacation and rent a room in a luxury hotel if I know that I won’t be able to have a good rest, because I will think about my “bad” life?
Have you heard these words before? And if you put up with these words and do not fight, then nothing will really change.
It is imperative to find enough strength in yourself to force yourself to forget the past and begin to believe that all the best and positive is yet to come.
And trust me, it’s not that hard to do. If you sit still, you won’t be able to move a single step.
Let go of guilt and resentment
The first and most important thing is to get rid of feelings of hatred and resentment. Resentment against an ex-husband, relatives, friends, acquaintances who once offended you.
To make it easier, go on vacation, visit a resort, the atmosphere of which will help you cope with your thoughts and forget all grievances.
It is the resentment that lives deep in you that does not allow you to relax and breathe deeply. Therefore, you need to say goodbye to this feeling as soon as possible.
Understand that divorce is not the end of life
You also definitely need to understand and what is called “drive” into your head that divorce is not the end of the world and life.
This is just the end of one stage of life and the beginning of another, new, interesting and unexpected.
Start a new stage of life
Decide what you want the most right now. Right now, the time has come to live for yourself, make gifts for yourself, meet classmates and old friends, fill your life with new joyful impressions and emotions, learn to enjoy every minute of life and notice everything beautiful around.
Remember how until recently you did not have enough time for yourself. You couldn’t go on the trip you’ve been dreaming about since your school days, have a noisy party with your girlfriends or friends.
