On the first date, he came without flowers and split the bill in a cafe? Showed up for his birthday without a present, saying that he was the best present? Always asks for small amounts in debt and does not return? Does he think that the best vacation is not in Turkey, but in the country for digging potatoes?
- 1. Settings from childhood
- 2. Self-loathing
- 3. The habit of not giving
- 4. High level of independence
- 5. Complete irresponsibility
- 6. Great love for money
- 7. Rescue of the “drowning”
Well, perhaps you have come across a typical greedy man who saves on his relationship. Having an affair with a stingy knight once is an experience.
But when there are not one, but two, three or more of them on your way, it is worth considering. And why do you come across only mean people? There are 7 different reasons for this, which Pavel Rakov, an expert on the Belnovosti online publication, a psychologist, coach, and creator of the cult training “Actually, I’m smart, but I live like a fool,” will tell about.
1. Settings from childhood
Yes, the attitudes that you are given in the family play a big role in adult life. Do you remember what your parents and grandparents told you? “We didn’t live richly and there’s nothing to start”, “A penny saves a ruble”, “Don’t have a hundred rubles …”, “You can’t buy health for money” … If you have constantly heard over the years, it is not surprising that greedy people come across your way men.
You were actually prepared for a meeting with such specimens, growing unmercenary! You believe that money is evil, negative, sin. And they answer you the same, that is, they are in no hurry to appear in your life – neither at work, nor with a man. What to do? Break the mindset and remind yourself more often that money is just a tool that will ensure you a healthy and happy life.
2. Self-loathing
If somewhere in the depths of your soul you consider yourself unworthy of a good income and a big house, a beautiful dress and delicious food, then do not be surprised if men begin to think the same way. People somehow see the attitude of a person to his “I” and act accordingly.
You don’t invest anything in yourself, don’t indulge in good things, buy expired products at discount prices, and your mother cuts your hair, but for free? Then why should the person who invited you on a date have the desire to buy flowers? It’s easier for him to say, “Hey! And so it will come down!
After all, you will forgive a walk in a cold park instead of gatherings in a restaurant, because: “How can I get this? No, it’s for good girls! And I … ”Start urgently falling in love with yourself – and the greedy people will fall off by themselves.
3. The habit of not giving
In this case, we are not talking about debts. It’s about what you can give to the world and to a man in particular. If you are focused only on yourself, and helping your family is a relic of the past for you, and gifts to colleagues are even more so, then stingy knights will definitely meet on your way.
Someone has to show you what you look like from the outside. Didn’t understand the first time? Get Greedy for the second, third, fourth time. Someday you will draw the right conclusions and learn how to share your energy, strength, time and money. No, we are not talking about everyone suddenly sitting on your neck and hanging your legs!
You are free to decide who to support and who to inspire. However, in life there should be a place for both healthy egoism and altruism. Only then will you achieve harmony and get rid of the mean people, because like attracts like.
4. High level of independence
It is very difficult to take care of a lady who is very independent, that is, she lives according to the principle “I myself!”. She herself will remind you that it is time to split the bill, she will buy herself flowers and a birthday present, she will take herself to the resort and rest herself. Even if a man reaches out with all his heart to such a lady, sooner or later he will start saving on her.
She constantly rejects his love language! Yes, for many representatives of the stronger sex, money is one of the ways to express feelings. The more they invest in their partner, the stronger the wound from Cupid’s arrows. But when the beloved says: “Oh, don’t, I myself!”, The passion begins to fade away. But most often such women attract a certain type – gigolos and greedy men.
5. Complete irresponsibility
If you are not ready to take responsibility for your actions and hope that a man will arrange everything for you, then … Meet a typical greedy man! He will definitely decide how and on what you spend money and whether to spend it at all, and will require a report on every penny given out for family expenses. And then more.
He will start saving on your life, children, health, even feelings for you. Yes, stingy knights calmly squeeze attention, tenderness, but you yourself handed over all the reins of government to them. When you want to be an eternal girl, without deciding anything, you need to be prepared for the fact that someone will do it for you. Including in the matter of money.
6. Great love for money
It all depends on the level of love for money. It’s one thing if you love them, but you can safely spend them on yourself, family, friends. And you enjoy it. But it is completely different when your feeling is excessively great. You measure everything in banknotes or currency – friendship, relationships, work moments, help.
Each person is the amount of money invested in clothes, shoes, accessories, dishes ordered in a restaurant. And his qualities of character, abilities and talents are not so important. In fact, you yourself are also a greedy person, because you like to spend what you earn exclusively on yourself. Then don’t be surprised by the appearance of stingy knights. They, like the fisherman of the fisherman, see the fisted lady from afar. Why are you at all to each other? Sing the praises of frugality and assure everyone around you that gifts are not the main thing.
7. Rescue of the “drowning”
How long are you willing to wait until the man’s black stripe changes to white? Statistics say that a confident professional will never be out of a job. At most, he will look for a new place for himself for six months, but he will definitely find it. But if your lover has been feeding you breakfasts about his plight for more than a year (and you are feeding him real breakfasts), then take a good look at yourself.
What if you are a woman who loves to save the “drowning” who do not choke at all? It’s just that it’s convenient for them to sit on your neck, because you are so understanding and patient! Therefore, he can give a loan, and get a loan instead of him, and do without flowers.
Never save with your warmth and kindness that person who can easily take a bait and catch fish, that is, go and earn money. If for some reason he does not do this, then you just warmed the greedy person on your chest.
